Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Value Compromise

Greetings Beloved Ones,
We all know the secret to relationships is mastering the art of "compromise". And, the way to refine your ability to compromise is to keep your ego in check! It is the ego that tells you you must have your way, or that you are always right, or that you must win at any cost, or to compromise is to somehow lose.

As you grow and mature emotionally and spiritually you will value the ability to let go, to compromise, to honor the other in the relationship and still feel good!

. What was your last compromise?
. Do you need to win all the time?
. Can you let others be right even when you know that you are right?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Monitor your inner state

Greetings Beloved One,
"When you feel bad about yourself, you will be far more inclined to interpret other people's responses negatively. You can get a read on your inner state of mind by how you relate to others.

It is good to take your emotional temperature once in a while. Sometimes we react to others without conscious forethought. We can benefit by tuning into how others are responding to us. Then we can check whether it is us or them. Either way, we can use the opportunity to choose consciously.

. Do you react quickly to other people?
. How do monitor your inner state?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, August 8, 2011

No Dumping!

Greetings Beloved One,
Do you ever feel entitled to criticize, yell, or, act out simply because you are feeling bad? Often times because our friends and loved ones are near and because we know they love us, we feel free to express all of our emotions or rather "dump" all of our emotions on them!

What we really want and need is empathy! Not just a place to unleash all of our stuff!!! The key is for us to learn how to share our negative feelings and emotions with those who care about us, in a healthy way for them and us.

Instead of going off, try simply owning our state of being out right. This will allow the other person to know what is going on with us and it will diffuse our inner feelings.

. What do you do with your pent up emotions and feelings?
. How do you express your frustrations?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Fortify The Castle

Greetings Beloved One,
We have been taught to consider others and this is good; however it is also good to be clear of when to focus on your own needs. Sometimes it is necessary to say no when considering others.

Our author says, "tolerance or even kindness should never take you to a place where your own integrity comes under threat"....considering others ceases to be psychologically helpful when you lose sight of your own needs, integrity and self."

. When was the last time you had to say no to someone? How did you feel?
. How do you choose between your needs and your obligations?
. How do you fortify your "castle"?

Make it a great day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

What Boundaries Allow

Greetings Beloved One,
Everyone has their own personal space. We have our likes and our dislikes, our own sense of what is acceptable to us and what is not. Because everyone is different and has different boundaries of comfort it would seem to make things challenging for us in relating to one another. However, the opposite can be true. Having clearly identified and expressed boundaries can actually help the relationship if they are known, honored, and valued by each party.

When boundaries are in place, you can feel empathy, interest, love, and peace. Just remember, you are not the center of other people's world, just your own. Respect their boundaries and set yours!

. How are you affecting other people?
. Are you aware of other's boundaries?

Make it a valuable day?
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, August 1, 2011

What Boundaries Are

Greetings Beloved Ones!
Do you have boundaries? Are you able to say what you need from others? Are you able to tell others what is not acceptable to you? Do you allow other people to walk over you? All of these questions have to do with boundaries and whether you have them or set them in your relationships.

Taking the time to get clear on what your boundaries are will inevitably help you and those you interact with. It takes self-respect, self-confidence, and self-awareness. And, it provide a freedom that encourages honesty and understanding if done in love.

. Where do you need to set boundaries in your life?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, July 29, 2011

There's nothing private about your moods.

Greetings Beloved One,
I ,issued yesterdays message but it is a powerful one and I believe it also ties into today's message. Yesterday was about growing beyond abuse. Many people suffer not just from physical abuse, but emotional and psychological abuse as well. Truth be told emotional and psychological carry just as heavy a burden as psychological abuse although it may on the surface seem less harmful.

Consider the effects of abuse leading to your being either a people pleaser or having ranting expressions yourself. Both are harmful to you and the people around you. You may either hold all your feelings in or force them out and onto others. Finding a healthy form of expression is a must for you. Building Self-Love and Self-Respect is a start!

When you can love and forgive yourself, it will lead to loving and considering others more easily. Your moods and outlook will change for the better and everyone around you will benefit.

Find something to love and forgive about yourself today!
Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Not everyone's needs are the same

Greetings Beloved One,
We have all heard the saying, "there is more than meets the eye'. That is true of everyone. There is always more to us than people can see, which is why we want to avoid judging by appearances!

Our author states, "try to see the real person, and not the image of the person that lives in your mind". They are undoubtedly more complex. If we give others the benefit of the doubt, we will more than likely give them the opportunity to express more of themselves because of our lack of judgment of them. People can feel when we are open to them or not!

. Who needs the benefit of your doubt?
. What else can you see in the other in your life who appears challenging to you?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev.Sylvia

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Beyond The Personal

Greetings Beloved One,
We are so focused on ourselves that we sometimes forget that other people truly make our lives worthwhile. Instead of judging, analyzing, or criticizing them, we can find ways to express our appreciation and love foe them.

Try starting your day naming all the things you love and value about those in your life. Then begin to open your heart so that you can express openhearted kindness and consideration of all whom you encounter today. Let every encounter be a holy encounter. Notice how you relate to others today. Practice Random Acts of Kindness!

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, July 22, 2011

Because you can!

Greetings Beloved,
Are you nice to those who are nice to you? Are you curt with those who are curt with you? Do you respond with hurt feelings to those who hurt your feelings? All of these responses would indicate that you are allowing others to determine how you will feel or respond. You are giving your power away!

Be kind because you can, be forgiving because it is the right thing to do for you and the other, treat those who mistreat you, with love and kindness because it is the higher way to respond and will do more to heal and uplift and transform than anything else!

. Have you taken the higher road lately?
. Do have others responded to you when you were extrordinarliy kind to them?
. Do you play the Tit For Tat game?

Be kind today!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Do I feel like it?

Greetings Beloved One,
"It's easy to consider others when you feel like it"! but what build character is sometimes doing thing when you don't feel like it! However, I am not talking about obligations, I am talking about considering others because you feel in your heart that it is the thing to do, the thing that allows you to be magnamious, generous, loving and considerate as a way of being! i am talking about spiritual maturity!

. What choices are you making that cause you to consider others?
. When was the last time you were generous in giving of yourself?

Make it a valuable day! Think about someone else!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Other people want what you want

Greetings Beloved One,
"The capacity to henuinely care about other people's feelings, even when you don't have those same feelings at the same time or in the same way, is what builds and developes empathy. This is a crucial attribute of emotionaly maturity".

. How do you handle when others bring you sad news?
. How do you handle the pain of others/
. What is your process for "being" with others in need?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

We are all complex beings!

Greetings Beloved Ones,
Don't you love hearing yourself referred to as a Beloved One? That is true of all of us, we are the Beloved of God, yet we may not always refer to or think of others in that manner. We judge, label, make wrong, condemn, criticize, find fault and express a host of other non flattering qualities.

what if we were to consider that no one is perfect and that we all are complex with multilevels and expressions. none of which you see in another is all of who they are, even the people you claim to know so well. Let's give one another the benefit of the doubt and love each other anyway, in all of our ways!
. Who have you labled lately?
. Who have you judged lately?
. Where are your areas of complexity?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, July 18, 2011

Give Happiness a Chance

Greetings Beloved Ones,
our author states, "the happiest people in all societies, across all cultures, races and religions are those who recognize their power to affect others positively---and do something abouit it!

. what are you doing to affect someone positively?
. have you ever practiced Random Acts of Kindness?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, July 15, 2011

Vacation!

Oh, by the way, I will be away next week and I am not sure if I will be able to post. We will see. If not, then I will catch you all in a week!

Rev. Sylvia

Talking Without Listening

Greetings Beloved One,
Have you ever met someone who greeted you by asking you how you are and then never stopping to actually listen to your response before going right along with their conversation? Of course we have, because at some point we have all been that person!

Try actually listening the next time you ask someone how they are doing. Give them your undivided attention; ask them honest questions, show genuine interest.

And likewise, when someone asks you how you are doing, notice your responses. Are you giving pat answers or are you truly conveying what you are feeling, or what is present for you at the moment? And, when you take a look at your answers, what is it that you are focused on? The Good, the Bad or the Ugly I your life? Hmmmm?

. Practice listening today! To yourself and others!

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, July 14, 2011

You affect other people constantly

Greetings Beloved One,
The author of Choosing Happiness states, "It's easy to recognize the impact other people have on us". We love it when they treat us with love, respect kindness. Or, they truly listen to us, or compliment us, or forgive us. We even feel it when they are rude, unkind, or treat us in a harsh way. But.....

How often do we stop and consider how we are affecting other people? Everythingnwe do in the presence of others also has an impact on them!

Here are so things to consider:
. Are people encouraged or discouraged by the way you treat them?
. Are you lifting their spirits or driving them crazy?
. Are they better or worse off for knowing you?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

What considering others means

Greetings Beloved Ones,
We have been talking about being considerate of others. And that other peoplenreally want what we want. They want to be happy, fulfilled, loved and treated with kindness. They want to be respected and valued.

However, just because people basically want the same universal wants and needs as we do, that does not mean they want exactly what we want in experience and expressions!

We must still allow people to be themselves, to have their differences, and to show up as they do. We can still demonstrate our caring for them; we can offer our concern, and give them our attention. We can still honor them and value who they are.

. Who can you be considerate of today?
. Who is the complete opposite of you and you love them anyway?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

A Friendlier Way Of Life

Greetings Beloved One,
Sometimes it is hard to remember that every person you encounter wants what you want. They too want respect, love, kindness, happiness, fulfillment, security, and the freedom to be themselves. If we could but remember that when we related to others it will make for better relationships.

As we grow and mature we are more open to considering others; more willing to place them first when needed and being fed and fulfilled by doing so.

. How do you give of yourself?
. Do something for someone else today!

Make it a kinder day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, July 11, 2011

Other lives matter

Greetings Beloved One,
Think about this, when a bird flaps it's wings in Brazil, it changes the wind currents all over the planet. We are interconnected in ways we can't imagine! Every life matters because we all effect one another whether we realize it or not.

. What are you doing to impact the world in a way that blesses others?
. How do you balance between being self-centered in a healthy way and being other centered?
. Who can you support today?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, July 8, 2011

Consider Others?

Greetings Beloved One,
We have been doing a lot of work on ourselves, on our happiness and desires, but who would think that in light of all of that, we must still think of others to really be fulfilled.

We need the sacred other to grow, unfold and live up to our full potential. Other people fill us, challenge us, and mirror for us what we need best to see. So, learning to care for others is really a spiritual call. It expands our consciousness and shows us our true selves. So, thank the sacred others in your life; thank them for teaching you, loving you and giving you the opportunity to be your best self!

. Who needs your love and concern right now in your life?
. Who are the sacred others in your life?
. How do embrace those people who challenge you most?

Make it a valuable day! Be kind to someone!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, July 7, 2011

How to build self-respect...essential insights

Greetings Beloved Ones,
Just so you will remember: No one can give you self-respect. No one can take it away either. Self-respect begins in your own mind, with the way you think and talk about yourself.

Encourage yourself as you would a good friend. Focus on your strengths. Check and challenge your negative assumptions about yourself and others! Assumptions are not facts!

Speak up for what you need. Don't expect other people to read your mind. They can't! And, know that you can survive NOT getting all of your needs met!
Love, love love!...yourself and others!
. How does self-respect show up for you?
. What do you do when a need is not met?
. Do you respect those who don't "deserve" it?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Think, Plan....And Play

Greetings Beloved One,
Life is short so why spend too much time worrying, obsessing, complaining or regretting what you may or may not have done rightly!

While it is good to examine what you may want to improve or address about your life, it is also important to pay attention to what is working well, what brings you joy, what you feel good about.

Make time to run in the rain, sleep under the stars, sing in the shower, climb a mountain, dance like no one is watching or whatever brings you happiness and joy!

. When was the last time you played hooky from work without being sick? What did you do?
. What do you do for fun?
. What do you enjoy about life?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Coping with setbacks and mistakes

Greetings Beloved One,
Setbacks, mistakes, foibles, fumbles, and poor judgement! We all have made them. The question is what do we do with them or how do we handle
them? Do they shatter your emotional state, or






render you incapacitated, devastated and berating yourself?

The key is to handle our setbacks and mistakes with kindness, clarity, honesty and forgiveness. Those are the things that will help us to heal and move forward.

First, lovingly own your mistakes. Take responsibility for them. Try not to get caught up in blame, shame, guilt or justification. Make amends and apologies where possible. Forgive yourself. Ask yourself if there is a lesson here for you. Learn it and see how you can apply it to your life in the future. Accept that you are growing and unfolding in awareness and in life. Trust that things will continue to unfold for the highest good of all and move on!
. How are you handling any setbacks or disappointments?
. What was your last mistake? How did you handle it?
. What is life teaching you right now?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia







We are not going to leave this earth without experiencing some let downs, errors, or misktaked on our part! So it is helpful to handle them in a way that heals and renews, either us or the other.

Loveingly own your mistake! Take responsibility
for it! Try not to get caught up in blame, shame or guilt. Make amends and apologize if possible. Ask yourself what was your part in the situation and

Friday, July 1, 2011

"I have to put up with this. I am in love."

Greetings Beloved One,
Oh what we won't do for love! Yet we also know that we must have boundaries even with those we love! "Putting up with" behaviors that diminish us is never a good option. Standing up for yourself is!

Self-respect does not require that we lose ourself in our relationships, hopefully it allows us to find ourselves. It enables us to honor our values, it uplifts us and empowers us to be the best we can be. And, it allows us to loving tell others what is acceptable or not in how we will be treated.

. Are you "putting up with" anything in your relationships?
. Do you set boundaries in your relationships? How so?
. What have you done for love?

Weel, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Stop, In The Name Of Love

Greetings Beloved Ones,
What will you do for love? Or what will you put up with for love? Sometimes love causes us to stop and examine our motivations, expectations, and tolerations! Love is not an excuse for bad behavior!

If love does not result in loving feelings, loving behavior, and loving energy, then it may not be love. Actions should match verbalizations. Stop and ask yourself, "is what I am doing loving?", or if you are on the receiving end, ask, "does this behavior or action feel like love?". If not, address it!

. Has your love ever had a jealous tinge to it?
. Do your actions match your confessions of love?
. What is the most loving thing you ever did for someone?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

How to apologize

Greetings Beloved One,
Whoever said "Love is never having to say you're sorry", is quite wrong! Having love for self and others often includes forgiveness and a willingness to apologize!

What an apology says is "I am tuned into your feelings and I want to own my part in whatever hurt my actions, or words may have caused". It must be genuine because it can carry healing energy if shared from a sincere heart.

And, if you are the recipient of an apology, accept it! So often we want an apology and even when we get it, we are reluctant to release the hurt or forgive the other person. It may be true that often time is needed before the apology can be received, but we can at least make every consideration to take it into our heart because it aid the healing process.

. Do you offer apologies easily?
. Who do you need to apologize to?
. How do you receive apologies? Do you accept them and move on? Or do you accept them and still hold on?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Guil

Good Day Beloved,
Guilty!!! That is the pronouncement we usually make when someone does us wrong. Not only are we quick to judge others guilt but we are also quick to hang onto our own guilt.

Guilt is good when it serves to wake us up to our behavior or actions that go against what we say we value. It can be a signal to check our conscience. However, guilt is never a good thing when we use it to repeatedly beat ourselves up. Learn the lesson and move on! To linger and languish in guilt beyond understanding the lesson is not being kind to yourself.

. What do younfeel guilty about?
. What did you learn about your behavior or action?
. Do you ever feel guilty because you feel you "should" do something?
. How do you handle obligations you really would prefer not have to do?
. Do you condemn others?

Well, make it a great day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, June 27, 2011

Shame can be healthy

Greetings Beloved One,

Shame, blame, and guilt are certainly uncomfortable feelings. Yet, with regard to shame, it can be a healthy emotion when it signals something you have done wrong. It is a good thing to recognize right from wrong and to be able to accept responsibility for our actions if we have indeed committed a wrong. This denotes a good level of healthy self-respect and love.

It takes a healthy, well balanced and grounded individual to admit their wrongs and to make amends for them. To feel shame helps to keep us on the right path for without it we can slip into acting without regard for anyone.

Let's be clear, we are not talking about taking on the mantle of someone else's shame. If you have been harmed, or abused by someone, there is no shame in that and you must hold the other person accountable.

. Do you make excuses for your mistakes?
. What do you do with shameful feelings when they arise?
. What is the difference between self-pity and shame?

Go deep today!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, June 24, 2011

The Power of Forgiveness

Greetings Beloved One,
There has been so much written on forgiveness as a quality needed for any kind of growth or healing. Forgiveness is very much tied into your love and respect for yourself.

We know that ultimately it is not really about the other person, but about you and your willingness to heal and move forward. Yet, how often do we hold onto our feelings of hurt thinking and wishing the other person would somehow feel what we are feeling, or understand how they were wrong or hurt you, and suffer a bit to really show they are sorry for what they did to you. Enough already! Take the focus off of them and place it on yourself!

You have the power to heal yourself! Forgvieness is more about you taking back your own power, your own life. Find ways to be more compassionate toward yourself and the act of forgiving others will be easier.

. What needs your forgiveness?
. What are you holding onto that needs to be released?
. Who are you making wrong?
. What have you learned from your mistakes?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia
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Thursday, June 23, 2011

"My Life, Your Fault!"

Greetings Beloved Ones,
We all would agree that "stuff" happens in life, but where we may disagree is who is responsible for what happens. I love the phrase, "My life, your fault" because it points out how willing we are to place blame onto others for what is happening in our lives. Yet, when we do this, we dis-empower ourselves!

Being a victim never bolsters you up! It always gives your life away! It may be hard to look within to see where you have to accept responsibility but that very act places the power of your life in your own hands.

It is not what they are doing to you, but simply what they are doing! Take the focus off of the other and decide what it is you want to do! To blame is lame! Choose, Act, and move forward in the direction of your desires!

. Where are you placing blame for the situations in your life?
. What choice could you make right now that would empower you?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

When others treat you disrespectfully!

Greetings Beloved One,

Ok, we're talking about Self-Respect, Self-Love, Self-Worth, Self-Esteem, just plain feeling good about one's self! But what happens when others do not have all that love or respect for you? Well, if your are strong in all of the above, it won't matter too much. But....if you are not in tune to your own sense of self, you will be easily moved by others opinions and thoughts about you!

Let's be clear, it is never ok to allow others to disrespect you in ways that are harmful to you, physically, or mentally or emotionally! I am not talking about hurting your feelings. I am talking about harming your psyche and soul over time.

Only you can determine when someone is not right for you, but if you do, don't hesitate to distengage quickly. We have a choice as to how we will allow others to treat us. Treat yourself well, and demand others do as well!

. How do you handle disrespect from others?
. Has it ever been difficult to leave a bad relationship? What did that say to you?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, June 17, 2011

Transform Defensiveness

Greetings Beloved One,

What's the difference between your ego and your Self? One needs no defending! When we become identified with our ego sense of self as opposed to our true Self, we succumb to defensiveness. Why? Because the ego's job is to defend the sense of self at all costs! And cost us it does!!!

Instead of trying to defend your "sense" of self, why not spend time trying to uncover and discover your true self, that part of you that is Divine, loving and perfect in God's view. This self exists in love, ease and grace. This self is understanding, compassionate, forgiving, accepting, honoring, and connected to Spirit.

. How is your ego showing up these days?
. What do you do to bring yourself back to your true self?
. Do you love yourself?
. What do you do with your less than stellar aspects of your personality?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Speak Respectfully

Greetings Beloved Ones,

What is your self-talk like? Is it kind, loving, respectful? Or do you find yourself speaking negatively or harshly about yourself? Do you put yourself down or belittle your own efforts and achievement? How we speak to and about ourselves is critical to our sense of well being.

Practice affirming yourself and your positive qualities of being! Yes it is healthy to examine areas of needed growth but we must do so in a manner that still honors our being and worth. We can still truthfully and kindly state what is needed.

. Listen to your self-talk today
. Find ten things to affirm about yourself

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Small steps are perfect

Greetings Beloved One,

Ok, how many of you want to be Awakened, God Realized, Self-Actualized, or at the Apex of your Highest Potential right now?! If we are honest, we all want instant perfection. We want to be at our highest and best now. We want to have all that we desire, now. But the truth of the matter is that things and life takes time!

Be patient with your progress! And be patient with your process! Any small overcoming should be acknowledged and celebrated. It is the accumulation of our small steps that actually takes us to our destination. We don't just arrived there alk at once. Life and our growth are a process, so be kind to yourself for every success gained no matter how small, and every lesson learned no matter how challenging.

. What baby steps are you taking right now?
. What successes can you celebrate right now?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

No beating up on yourself

Greetings Beloved Ones!

Wow, today's reading from "Choosing Happiness" was right up my alley. No beating up on yourself!! Why is it that we are do hard on ourselves? Is it because we think if we make a mistake or show up poorly that we will be judged, shunned, ridiculed or simply not accepted? Just the thought of that happening to us is enough for us to be harsh and judgmental with ourselves. But, the truth is, if we don't show love, compassion, forgiveness, gentleness, and understanding toward ourselves the how can we expect others to do so?

One of the hardest lessons is to trulynlearn to love and accept yourself with all of your flaws and personality limitations. We are all here to gore and unfold; to become more of our higher potential and selves. Be patient with the process! That goes for you and for your judgement of others.

Learn and move forward. God only sees the goodness of your heart and soul! So let go and move forward! Shine the Light!,,

. Where are you judging yourself harshly?
. How do you offer forgiveness to yourself?
. Can you embrace your limitations?
. What is the real truth about you? Do you believe it?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, June 13, 2011

Tidying up the people around you

Greetings Beloved One,

Ok, we have all done it, and to no avail! That is, we have tried to change someone and it didn't work. Yet, we try it anyway!

It is so easy to point out other people's flaws and negative personality traits. Why is that? Well because it is harder still to focus on our own flaws and shadow side. Yet, that is what we must do if we are to grow spiritually and psychologically.

It takes a brave heart to truly look into one's own psyche and personality. But do it we must. Let each person tend to their own garden and you be about the business of tending your own weeds!

When you can love, accept and be aware of your hot spots and begin to take positive action to heal them, you will begin to experience wholeness, not to mention peace of being!

. What needs to be healed within you?
. Have you ever been successful at changing someone else? If so, how did you do it?
. What is your greatest fear about facing yourself?
. What is it about others that triggers a reaction in you? Why is that?

Well, there is a lot to examine today so make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, June 10, 2011

Entitled to be yourself

Greetings Beloved,

How many times have friends, family or colleagues felt comfortable enough to tell you what is "Wrong" with you? What is not quite right or perhaps some bad habit you have or annoying trait, or tendenacy? And, you think this is something you want to get rid of.

While it may be helpful to listen to those repeated comments that may ring a familiar bell in you, it is not wise to believe that is all of who you are! You are always more than some habit, tendenacy, or personality quirk. Those are simply "a part" of who you are, NOT all of who you are!

When you can recognize an aspect of yourself it is easier to handle or to make changes than if you believe it to be all of who you are. Stand back and also look at other parts of yourself that you possess that may be just the opposite of your less than favorable traits. This will put things in perspective for you.

. What are your positive traits?
. What are your less than positive traits?
. How do these balance each other or serve you in your growth process?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Syliva

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Give Yourself Good Advice

Greetings Beloved One,

How often do we run here and there looking for someone to give us the right answers to our problems? We believe someone else knows better than we do. But the truth of the matter is that we are wise beyond our knowing.

The answers you seek are truly within you. You just need to begin to trust yourself. What is needed is to find ways to unlock and open up your access to your higher consciousness. Practice writing a letter to yourself from the wise one within you, or journaling the question and answers, or having a conversation with your higher self.

. What do you usually do when you are stuck and need answers or direction?
. Do you trust your own advice?
. What was the best advice you ever gave yourself?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Other people's opinions matter, but less than you think!

Greetings Beloved One,

Why oh why how why do we care so much about what order people think of us? Well, I sups t it is because we may not have learned to care about our selves from a healthy perspective. We may not value our own opinions, self-worth, or we may not trust our own perspectives.

Other people's opinions matter but not as much as you think! When your trust and value yourself you can head the opinions of others without losing who you are. You can hear with a clear hear and an open heart and still remain true to yourself.

Your well-being is not determined by someone else's assessment of you!

. Do you ever find yourself needing other's onions to reassure you?
. How do you handle criticism?
. How do you handle compliments?
. What is your opinion of yourself?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, June 6, 2011

Self-Love and Self-Respect

Greetings Beloved Ones,

Can you tell the difference between self-love and self-absorption? When we are pre-occupied with ourselves we have a tendency to think everything is about us! We think the world revolves around us and we can't tune in to others.

Healthy self-love means that we also respect and love others. The other is sacred and connected to us in meaningful ways.

. How can you tell the difference between self-love and self-absorption?
. How do you support and love others?
. How do you love yourself ?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, June 3, 2011

"No" is a complete sentence

Greetings Beloved One!

I love the statement, " No is a complete sentence"! Do you ever have a hard time saying no? Or, when you say no, people want to question that no or have you justify it! Well, "No" is a complete sentence!

When you get comfortable with your sense of self, it will be easier to say no and mean it without guilt or doubt. I think the reason we have a challenge saying no is that we fear being rejected, or that we are hurting someone. Well, you do not always have to sacrifice your needs, you can say no if it is right for you.

. Do you have a challenge saying no?
. Do you feel guilty when having to say no?
. Have you ever said no when you wanted to say yes and said no when you wanted to say yes?

Be clear and make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, June 2, 2011

Be a loving to others

Greetings Beloved One,

We all know the Golden Rule, "Do unto to others what you would have them do unto you". Which is a great rule only sometimes we are simply unaware of the impact of our words or behaviors. Our intentions may be pure and full of love but that is no guarantee that it will be received with the same understanding.

What I think is loving, you may think is harsh; what I think is clear, you may think is confusing; what I am offering you, you may not want. Doing into to others can also be about asking what the other needs and how they need it. It can be about open and honest communication about how to love and serve one another according to what will fulfill the other. Ask "how should I do unto you?"

. How do you tune into the needs of others? Your partner? Your friends? Your colleagues? Your children?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Situations that harm you

Greetings Beloved Ones!

"Self-respect and self-harm cannot coexist, one saves you from the other". Wow! That is a deep statement! It begs the question of self-love. Do you love yourself enough not to put yourself in dangerous situations, situations that are harmful not just to your physical wellbeing but your emotional and psychological wellbeing?

Why do people stay in toxic relationships? Or accept constant criticism or put downs, or accept disrespect from others? Well, it relates to their level or lack of self-love and sense of worthiness.

. Have you discovered ways in which you may not be loving of yourself?
. Have you discovered ways in which you may feel unworthy?
. How would you handle your boss or friends who are consistently disrecptful or devaluing you?
. Do you criticize, judge or loath your thoughts, feelings and behaviors at times? Do you like who you are or have become?

Look deep and make it a callable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Turn a difficult situation around

Good Day Beloveds,

Wouldn't it be great if we never had any problems, challenges or hard times! Well, such is not the case; as long as we are here we will have things to deal with that are not necessarily pleasant or welcomed. And, how you handle them says a lot about you, your character, and your self-respect.

Challenges promote growth!

. Where are your growing edges?
. How do you handle crisis?
. What upsets you more, little annoying things or large overwhelming things?
. What challenges are you facing today?

Have a great and valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, May 30, 2011

You are a Self

Greetings Beloved Ones,

When people ask you "who are you?", more than likely you will tell them what you do, where you work or where you live, or who you are connected with. However, none of those answers really say who you are in Truth.

It might feel strange to tell them I am a spiritual being, and expression of God. But this is our true nature. You are a divine self! There is that of you that is beyond your personality, your outer identity. You have a mind, but you are not your mind; you have a body, but you are not your body, etc. The real of you is beyond any outer description or inner emotions. You are a Divine Self!

. Who is it that is observing your life from within?
. How do you make a connection with your true self?
. Practice listening deep within. Have you ever heard the "still small voice"?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, May 27, 2011

Ego And Self.....

Greetings Beloved One,

There is a difference between your Ego and your "Self". Your Ego defends you at all costs and drives you unconsciously; whereas your Self supports your waking up and patiently encourages your attempts at achieving wholeness.

What do you think would happen if you gave up all effort to "defend" yourself, your thoughts, your actions and could simply allow others to have their thoughts and opinions? I think you would truly experience peace and self-acceptance!

. Where or when do you "defend" yourself most?
. Have you ever just remained silent in an argument? Or simply agreed with your adversary?
. What are you afraid of?
. Can you identify when you are being Ego-driven?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, May 26, 2011

All you are isn't up for change

Greetings Beloved Ones,

I love the Serenity Prayer. "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference!". That is such a powerful prayer yet it is often challenging to do.

We sometimes spend time and energy worrying about something we did or didn't do and now cannot undo. It is over and yet we still want it to be different in our minds. The more healthy approach would be to accept what has been done and then to see what you can do to bring healing and peace. You may not be able to undo something but you can always practice or offer forgiveness, understanding, compassion, to yourself and others, or to a situation. Hanging onto guilt, shame or blame serves no one!

. What do you need to accept about yourself or others or a situation?
. What can you change about yourself?
. What is non-negotiable for you?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev.Sylvia

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Support Your Well-Being

Greetings Beloved Ones!

We are Spirit, Soul, and Body, or Spirit, Mind, and Body. And, all three phases of our being need our love and attention. If we neglect any area, we more than likely will feel out of balance.

At best, we pay most attention to our bodies and mind because they are more readily identifiable to us. We relate those two compoents as being who we are. However, we are spiritual beings and that part of our nature needs just as much attention.

. What do you do to feed your spirit?
. How do you take care of your mind? Your Body?
. Are you out of balance in any area? What is your plan for healing and restoration?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, May 23, 2011

You have the right to good experiences

Good Day Beloved Ones,

Has something good ever happen to you and you feel a bit guilty about it? Or, someone gives you a great gift and you feel as if it is too much? These are just examples of how often we feel unworthy or have difficulty receiving.

When we truly feel good about ourselves, we will also feel we are deserving of every good thing. We will not shy away from our good and we will be comfortable letting others support, bless and love us.

. Are there times you feel unworthy?
. How do handle compliments?
. How do you handle receiving extraordinary gifts?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, May 20, 2011

Growing In Integrity

Greetings Beloved Ones,

Integrity is about being whole, complete and honest with yourself. It is about acknowkledging and honoring all parts of yourself while also healing, transforming, and integrating those parts. It is about being conscious of what is happening within you and then making choices that affirm you and lead you to greater growth. It also means letting your yes be yes, and your no be no! Speaking your truth and expressing your self with love and integrity.

. How does integrity show up for you?
. Where are you feeling less than, and what can you do to heal those feelings?
. Where is your growing edge? What do you need to do to grow and change?
. What is your life telling you right now and are you listening?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Lean on Love

Greetings Beloved Ones,

We all know the song title "what's love got to do with it?" well, the answer is, everything! Love is the basic desire of life itself. Everbody and everything seeks love and to be able to honestly say that you love yourself is the ultimate sign of
Self-respect!

. What are the ways you demonstrate self-love?
. How do demonstrate love for others?
. What is love anyway?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Behaving well for a pat and a biscuit

Greetings Beloved One,

Have you ever put on your best face just to make a good "first" impression? Or have you ever met someone and they appeared to be one way only to find them quite differently later on?

We all like to put our best foot forward, however often times it is hard to maintain a presence or image if it is not really us. Be your authentic self, it is easier.
. Have you ever pretended to be something you are not?
. Does your personality ever change according to the people you are with at the moment?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Are You Supporting or Undermining Your Self-Respect?

Greetings Beloved One,

Here are today's questions upfront:
. Do you unconsciously sabotage yourself? How?
. What do you do to support yourself through your challenging situations?
. Do you have any passive-aggressive tendencies?
. Do you confront or meet situations head-on?

All of these questions determine the degree to which you either support your sense of self, or undermine it. We don't alway do the things we know or desire to do that would really support us and our growth. We shy away, or are unconscious, or ignore the many ways we don't honor ourselves.

Maybe we fear not being liked if we are honest with others, or that people will think less of us if we are our authentic self. However, you matter! Honor your being! Be yourself!

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, May 16, 2011

To think well of yourself, check your behavior!

Greetings Beloved Ones,

Our author states, "we tend to judge ourselves by our good intentions and others by their actions". Isn't that true! We usually want other people to see or accept our good intentions even when we show up poorly, but.....we rarely offer that to other people. We usually judge them harshly, or see only their actions without considering their intentions.

If we are to grow, we have to reverse the process. We have to begin to observe our actions and check to see if they are in alignment with our principles, intentions and values! Are your actions helping others or harming them? Take responsibility for your actions! And the results, good or bad!

. When have your good intentions not worked out well?
. How do you check or measure your behavior?
. What do you think happens that causes your actions to not match your intentions?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Old Fears, New Feelings

Greetings Beloved Ones!

Have you ever been haunted by an old fear that surfaces every once in a while? Do we ever really get rid of our fears? Or can we mange them so that they don't interfere with the choices that move us forward?

Like it or not, fear may also serve a purpose. If we can manage to look into our fears, we can learn a great deal about ourselves and find the strength to grow. We must learn to have more compassion when we are in the grip of our fears.

Here are some questions to ask when facing your fears:
. What is fear teaching me here?
. Where is it taking me?
. If I look deeply into the heart of fear - if I look at fear fearlessly, what will it become?
. What would I do if I weren't afraid?
. What does this situation need, whether I am afraid or not?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Treat other people well--and yourself

Greetings Beloved Ones,

"Self-respect, like happiness, lives or dies on how you treat other people --as well as yourself". Ww all want tot treat others with love and kindness. The key is how to do it when they stress you out, annoy you, or treat you poorly!

It is easy to be nice to those who are nice to you, kind to those who are kind, loving to those who are loving. But the scriptures states we should be kind, loving and even forgiving of our enemies! Now that's a challenge! But.....if you have enough self-respect, self-love and inner strength you will find that you can allow them to be in whatever state they are in without it affecting you! Why? Because you know who you are and that needs no defense!

. How do you treat yourself well?
. How do you treat others well?
. How do you handle those who treat you poorly or disrespect you, or are unconscious of their negative behavior?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

The "Too Busy" Excuse

Greetings Beloved Ones,

Life has become so stressful, so full, that we don't even have time for ourselves. But, if we don't have time for ourselves who or what will make time for
us?

Being too busy to take care of yourself is the highest form of non self-respect! It is dishonoring and devaluing your own self worth!

. What do you do to make time for yourself?
. Are you good at saying "no"?
. If everything is a crisies then how do you get to what is also important to you?

Make it truly a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, May 9, 2011

Not choosing is also a choice

Greetings Beloved Ones!

"Who you are, and who you are becoming, depends on what and how you choose." And, "Self- respect and Integrity depend on conscious choosing." So, not choosing amounts to having little respect or value for our thoughts, ideas, wants, or needs. When we fail to make a choice, conscious or otherwise, devalue and disempower ourselves! We set our selves up for victimhood. Or, we become "passive-aggressive". Not choosing is also a choice!

. Do you confront people openly and honestly? Or do you lean toward a more passive approach?
. Have you ever refused to make a difficult choice? What was the result?
. How can you get yourself to make clear and conscious choices?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, May 6, 2011

The Power of Choosing

Greetings Beloved Ones,

"Your self-respect depends on how you perceive yourself and what choices you made." Your choices say more about you than you realize. They determine whether you honor yourself or others, whether you put others first or yourself, whether you think highly or poorly of yourself or others.

You make thousands of choices daily. The question is do you make them consciously? Remember, conscious awareness maximizes the power of your choice!

. What do your choices say about yourself?
. Name ten things that show how you manifest self-respect.
. Do you believe you have high self esteem? If not why?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia
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Thursday, May 5, 2011

In Your Own Hands

Greetings Beloved One,

Areatha sang about it, Rodney Dangeffield complained about not getting it, and it is something we all want....Respect! What is respect? Is it honoring an individual? Is it fearing them? Is it an obligation owed to one's elders?

We all know what it feels like when we are disrespected or belittled, or made to feel small and insignificant. It doesn't feel good! We want to feel that we matter; that who we are is worthy of being honored, noticed, valued, and yes respected.

However, respect from others may not carry as much weight as respect for one's self! It all begins with self-respect!

. Do you posess self-respect? How does it manifest in your life?
. Do you feel respected by others?
. How do you believe that you can get respect from others?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Anger need not drive you!

Greetings Beloved Ones,

Our author states, "when it comes to anger, we can add to the world's sum total of anger, rage, frustration,and aggregation - or we can reduce it". Dealing with or controlling your anger is paramount for your relationships and personal health.

There are different levels and variations of anger, and being able to identify them is Important in getting them under control. Are you irritated, enraged, annoyed, frustrated, violent, pissed,
feeling dismissed, piveed? Are you short tempered, aggressive, passive-aggressive, smoldering?

It is not that we should not have these emotions nut it is vital that we don't let them drive us or move us into unconscious actions. The author give us plenty of ways to practice working with and alleviating our anger. Practice Peace!
. What are your practices for controlling or reducing your anger?
. How do you take care of your needs? Do you ask for what you need? Or do you just hope you will get it or that someone will notice them?

Well, make it a peaceful day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, May 2, 2011

What about anger?

Good Day Beloveds!

Well, we have been talking about our attitudes and how they impact our relationships. And, nothing effects relationships more than how we handle anger.

Anger comes from many places within our psyche. It could be repressed feelings, fear of confrontation, hurt feelings, righteous indignation, jealousy and and whole host of other reason. However, it is good to know the reason for our anger so that we can make a wise choice as to how to handle it.

. How do you handle your anger?
. Do you ever engage in passive-aggressive behavior?
. Can you define different degrees of your anger?

Well, make it a peaceful day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, April 29, 2011

Know what you can control - and what you can't

Greetings Beloved One,

"How you do something you can control, but how others react is beyond your control!". Yet, how often do we think we can control the way other think, feel, act or react? If they don't give us the answer we seek, or respond in ways we agree with, we keep trying to change them, convince them, or convert them to our way of being, seeing, and doing!

Sometimes, the opposite might occur. We are so sensitive to other's needs, thoughts, and opinions that we are overly concerned when we aren't in alignment with them. We worry that we will offend them, anger them, not have their approval and the like. We are all to ready to give away our power just to please them or prove acceptable to them.

Our author says, "Your integrity deepens when you can say to yourself, - 'I've done my best, and I am happy with that."

. Do you ever find yourself giving away your power?
. Have you ever agreed with someone just to avoid and argument?
.Do you ever feel controlled by someone else and now do you handle that?
. When was the last time you tried to please someone?

Well, make it a free flowing day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Choose what goes into your mind

Greetings Beloved Ones,

"Feed your mind as well as you feed your body!". Most of us our conscious of how well we take care of our physical body. We feed it, bath it, exercise it and give it rest. Well, what do we do for our minds?

The mind also needs to be fed, exercised, nourished, and rested. What goes into the mind will also find its way out as an expression of who we are.

. What do you do to feed your mind?
. How do you exercise your mind?
. What is the first thing you find yourself thinking about upon awakening in the morning? What kinds of thoughts are present?

Makenit a mindful day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Check Your Results

Greetings Beloved Ones,

We have all heard the saying that "insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results". Have you ever wondered why we do that? Well, it's crazy!!

If you want different results you have to do something different; it's just that simple. You might want to start with what it is that is frustrating you and work from there. Take note of what would alleviate your frustration and do that. For example, you want to finish your report before the last minute timeframe you usually work under. So the results you want to focus on how can you alleviate the pressure you put yourself under with your last minute antics! Find the leverage you need to start earlier! If you want different results, take different actions!

. What is it the you do over and over without new results?
. What habits can you change that would bring you more peace?

Well, be the change you want to see!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Your Power To Choose

Greetings Beloved Ones!

There are times when we find ourselves in the heat of the moment and we react rather than respond to the situation. And, our reactions are usually not our best.

The object would be to learn now to consciously choose while in the midst of a challenging situation; one that is emotionally charged. This is not easy but we can practice how we would want to respond so that it is a familiar response when we are in the heat of the moment.

Also, try noticing what your body feels like when you are triggered. Let it be a sign that you want to make a conscious choice. And, remember to celebrate your successes! Make note of how good it feels to be more on top of your reactions! You can consciously choose!

. What are your triggers or hot spots? How do you usually respond?
. Do you notice when you get defensive in a conversation? What do you do?

Well, choose to make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, April 25, 2011

Know What Your Prejudices Are

Greetings Beloved Ones,

"Responding is never a neutral activity. It is always driven be emotions, assumptions, preconceptions and prejudices. In fact not only is responding driven by prejudices, it also reveals them.". Wow! What you think, how you respond, react, or behave says a great deal about you. Your opinions reveal your prejudices, not only your point of views. And, all of this affects your relationships and interactions with others; and the same goes for the other.

So, how do we have open and honest relationships without all the prejudice, assumption, judgements and perceptions getting in the way?

. Do you have prejudices about certain groups of people? Where did that come from?
. Have you ever participated in group think or herd mentality?
. What are your prejudices?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, April 22, 2011

How are you affecting others?

Have you ever felt small or insignificant? Well, the truth is that we affect everyone we come in contact with! It is as if we leave a energy trail of our presence wherever we go.

Every word you say, every smile, every frown, even your silence has an affect on those around you. So, the questions are:
. What is your being saying to others?
. How do you think other people experience you?
. What is the general impression you leave with the grocery store clerk or the stranger on the street, or the person who calls soliciting on the telephone?
. How would describe your relarionship with your colleagues and co-workers, oh yeah, and your boss? And, how do you contribute to that relationship?

Ah, what a wonderful day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Respond in slow motion

Greetings Beloved Ones,

There is a spiritual practice called "Mindfulness" in which you bring your full awareness to everything you do. And so, you practice by doing everything in slow motion. You walk slow, being mindful of every step, feeling the pressure of each toe as it touches the ground. You brush you teeth in slow motion, chew every morsel of food with conscious awareness.

This practice helps you bring conscious forethought to your actions, choices, and responses. You are present for your life! You aren't rushing through unconsciously!

. How can you tell when you are on automatic pilot?
. Have you ever driven home and don't really recall how you got there? Or, have you done something similar that demonstrated unconscious activity on your part?
. How often do you change your routines?

Have a mindful day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

The Power of Pausing

Greetings Beloved Ones,

We're all familiar with the phrase "Stop, Look and Listen". What if we were to apply that concept to how we engage life? We might then pause to check out if we are being conscious in our actions; we might take more time in listening to others; we might actually stop and smell the roses.

Learning to pause before we act, or speak, and do an inner scan, (which doesn't have to take long,) will allow you to bring more awareness and presence into your being. You will find you will make better choices, present yourself in a calmer manner, be more thoughtful of others and express a host of other positive effects.

. What can you do to build in some power pauses into your life and daily activities?
. What can you do to train yourself to pause before you act?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Set Your Inner Compass

Good Day Awakened Ones!

The beauty of waking up to a new day is that it lies open before you! It is a chance to begin anew with a fresh start. I have found that when I take a moment to set my intentions for the day, it has a remarkable effect on my day. Energy flows where your intentions goes!

Setting your inner compass for your intended direction reminds you that you are the captain of your ship. You have choices to make, and decisions about your inner world as well as your outer experiences but it all starts with you. Set the tone for your day before getting out of bed. Myou decide how you will approach the day. Pick a value or a word or an intention statement and then go.

. How do you begin your day?
. What gifts do you offer to yourself to take on the day?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, April 18, 2011

Choose To Respond Rather Than React

Greetings Beloved Ones!

It has been said that we have the power to choose a new response to an habitual reaction. But that takes a great deal of presence! You have to be aware of your reactions in the moment and then have the presence of mind to change them in mid-stream.

Our author says, "our habitual reactions are generally defensive." That being true, I would think it would take a consistent use of the new response before it becomes a habit. So, finding a way to practice your new and desired response would be key. Why not take a desired response and turn it into an affirmation that you use and repeat consistently over time to recondition your mind. That way when the situation comes up you stand a better chance of responding rather than reacting!

. What are some of your habitual reactions?
. Can you identify what triggers an habitual reaction from you?
. Would you be comfortable taking about ten seconds before responding in a conversation where you feel threatened, triggered, or uncomfortable?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, April 15, 2011

I Can Help It

Greetings Beloved Ones!

Have you ever felt overpowered by your emotions? They oftentimes just spring up after some type of trigger. We find ourselves reacting rather than responding. Because emotions come up quickly, we have to practice being aware of them often so that we can be conscious enough to choose how we want to respond in a given situation.

Not only will it help to notice them, but it will also help to name the when they are up. This way you can see if you have a range of emotions or you are habitually stuck on a limited few; which may or may not be appropriate for the moment.

Being aware will bring conscious forethought and thereby the ability to choose rather than react!

. What would say are your frequently expressed
emotions?
. What do you do to stop yourself from falling into an emotional tirade?
. How do you express your negative emotions in a healthy way?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Catalysts For Change

Greetings Beloved Ones!

Change VS Routine! That is an age old battle. Some things are better left the same and others demand change. There is safety and comfort in routine; you know what to expect. Yet change brings excitement and growth.

. Are you a person who likes things to stay the same? Or...are you constantly changing things, like your hair, your furniture placement, your driving route home?
. What do you do when you feel stuck in life?
. How do you re-boot or jump start your life?
. What changes need to be made in your life right now? What's the plan?.

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Is Empathy Your Enemy?

Greetings Beloved Ones!

We have been trained to be kind to others; to make an effort to meet the needs of others, help and offer support whenever we can. The question is, do you forget to take care of yourself in the process?

In my job as a minister, I am conditioned to put others first, to put the needs of the church first, to make sure everyone is happy and experiencing harmony, etc. When we express empathy to the degree that we lose or sacrifice ourselves in the process, it neither truly serves either party.

When we offer love and kindness, a compassionate heart, a listening ear and support, it truly needs to be offered with balance and mutual benefit; not at the expense of losing oneself.

. Are you a people pleaser?
. Do you fear not being liked by others or that you may not have their approval?
. Do you put other's needs ahead of yourself consistently? (barring children)
. Are there times you act like a martyr?
. Have you ever lost yourself in a relationship?

Make it a valuable day! Love yourself!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Listening to Complaints and Criticisms

Greetings Beloved Ones!

We have been working with the concepts of criticism and I must admit this is a sore spot for me. I don't take criticism very well. Someone just gave me a definition of criticism that rings true for me but one I might what to reevaluate. The thought is , "Criticism is someone's inner judge making a verdict on my life".

The usual response to criticism is the feeling of being judged. How can we change that to something less severe? How can we receive it in a manner that really is helpful? I would think if the person offering the criticism uses "I" statements and really owns their own feelings, that would help. It is when they make "you" statements that one feels the need to defend oneself.

State the behavior, without judgement or using the word "you", own and acknowledge your feelings and then ask for support in what you need or would like to see differently. This is part of a communication process called "Non-Violent Communication". It works if you work it!

. Do you use "I" statements or "you" statements when you are upset?
. How can you tell whether you are offering constructive criticism or judgments?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, April 8, 2011

Cure for all Critics

Greetings Beloved Ones!

It's a fact that everybody has an opinion and, they feel free to share them with you! Or, everybody is a critic and they feel free to offer critiques. The questions is, how do you feel being on the receiving end of all these comments and opinions?

Observe whether you have a tendency to criticize, complain, offer unsolicited advice, judgements, reviews, or just your random thoughts about someon else. I know I think, well I am just "sharing"! But we must check to see if we are also "sharing" the good things, things that encourage, inspire, uplift, and praise others!

. Do you criticize others, or offer advice, or judgments?
. How do you handle criticism directed toward you?
. How do you feel when criticized?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, April 7, 2011

How to listen carefully

Greeting Beloved Ones!

OK, we are still talking about listening. Why? Well perhaps it is because we don't do it very well. To really listen takes focus, deep compassion, and a commitment to hearing the other person...hearing the "other" person!

Usually, when listening to another person, we are also focused on what we want or need to say in response. What if we just listened? What if we agreed with ourselves that we would not interrupt, offer advice, or tell our own story while listening to another? Everybody wants to be heard! Practice being an exceptional listener and you just might find out a few things about yourself.

. Do you consider yourself a good listener? If so, what makes you so?
. How do you handle listening when the statements made concern you and, they are erroneous?
. Do you give advice?
. How do respond to advice?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Your Listening History

Greetings Beloved Ones!

I came from a family that loved to talk. Everybody had an opinion about everything and anything. And, often times we talked over one another. You needed to talk fast and loud if you wanted to be heard.

While it was fun joining in the conversations at family gatherings and I learned to value critical thinking and deep analysis, I also learned to make sure your point was made and heard. I'm not sure that last part always works to one's benefit. Sometimes it is best to just listen!

. What was communication like in your family?
. Do you often feel heard or unheard in conversations?
. In group settings, are you forthcoming or laid back?

Well, make it a valuable day! I can hear you!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Careful listening supports you

Greetings Beloved Ones!

How can you gain a sense of self by listening to someone else without interjecting your thoughts and opinions? Well, because you are perhaps so comfortable with yourself that you do not need to hear yourself or ensure that others hear you over themselves.

Listening is truly an art. It takes a fair amount of self control to take the focus off of yourself and allow it to rest on another. But giving someone your full and complete attention is a gift to that person and you grow stronger in the process.

. When was the last time you listened to someone and did not interrupt or interject a comment or statement about yourself?
. When was the last time you felt heard, truly heard?

Listen Up! Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, April 4, 2011

Listening is an Attitude

Greetings Beloved Ones!

There is a phrase that says, "Listen or your tongue will make you deaf". In other words, be quiet and listen to what others have to say. There is nothing more caring than giving someone your undivided attention and concern.

Often when others are speaking we are talking in our heads; thnking about what to say next, evaluating whether we agree with what the person is saying or just plain spacing out.

Everyone wants to be heard! Really and truly heard with empathetic ears. You don't have to agree just let me know you have heard me and not with your own spin about what you think I said, but what I actually said.

Listening is an art and done well, can heal relationships.

. How do you feel when you are not heard or listened to empathetically?
. Do you listen to yourself? How much time do you actually spend listening to yourself?

Make it a valuable day! I can hear you!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, April 1, 2011

Unexpected Strengths

God's Day to you!

It has been said that your greatest weakness can become your greatest strength and likewise, your greatest strength can become a weakness! The question is how to find the balance between undergoing or overdoing something?

. Is there something in your life that you are fairly good at that when overdone has caused a problem for you?
. What are your strengths?
. What are your weaknesses? Is there any similarity or connection between them?
. Do you have any hidden strengths or weaknesses that others cannot readily see?
. Have you discovered any unexpected strengths?

Here is a website for a test to help identify your strengths. www.authentic happiness.org

Make it a valuable day!
Rev.Sylvia

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Thursday, March 31, 2011

How to deal with a painful situation

God's Day to you!

If you experience some type of painful situation is your response usually to mull it over and over in your mind? Do you replay the situation or the conversation or the scene? Do you hold yourself and others hostage to your pain?

When deeply hurt, we have to find healthy ways to deal with the pain, otherwise it will color and affect our interactions and experience of the world.

The author of the book, "choosing happiness" says we should wrtie down our feelings, our attitudes, how we think the situation is going to affect us for the rest of our lives, how will we be changed, wha does it mean for the future, etc. Then.....go back in a few days read your statements and write two new lists; one titled "Helpful Attitudes" and one titled "Hurtful Attitudes"' the see on which list all of your responses from your first writing fall into! Boy will you get some clarity!

So....How do you handle your pain? What is your process?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Painful Feelings, Painful Attitudes

Greetings Beloved Ones,

Have you ever been wronged, hurt, betrayed, left out or misjudged? Well, we all have suffered some injustice in life. The question is, what have you done with those feelings? What have you done with the hurt and pain? What have you done with the sense of rejection and loss?

Often times we simply keep it all buried within our heart, mind, body, and spirit. We may tell ourselves and others that we are ok, that we are working on it, getting over it, but in reality we are reliving it, holding it in consciousness and letting it affect our attitudes and behavior even if unconsciously.

How long is long enough to hold on to our hurt? Feelings are to be felt, that's ok. It can become problematic when those feelings are then allowed to. Interfere with present day actions, choices, and perceptions.

I say feel them and then heal them! That is our work. Your growth comes through right perception and right thinking! Don't just hold them heal them!

. What hurts or painful situations need to be healed in your life?
. What are you holding on to that needs to be released?
. How do you work on or with your feelings?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

A change in attitude can change a relationship

God's Day to you,

Stephanie Dowrick says, "Attitude rules your inner world. And because attitude drives behavior, it also rules our relationships. ...Attitude can heal relationships or bring them to a painful end."

If you want to heal them, it is going to take a shift in attitude, a shift in perception and a desire to work it out; which means a willingness to see things differently. If you can start with and hold the premise throughout your interaction that you want to support one another, it will really help shift you from your stuck places. Being honest about your needs while also being fully open to the other's needs will also help. The point is to be willing to alter your attitude. It will change the way you experience life!

. What attitude do you carry toward your partner, your boss, your best friend, your colleague, and your neighbor?
. How does your deeply seated attitude affect your relationships?
. What is the basic attitude that needs to be changed right now for you?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, March 28, 2011

Practice Gratitude

Oops, I didn't finish before i accidentally sent the blog. So.....here is the rest of my thoughts.

I told the woman to find at least three things she was grateful for daily. It is hard to remain sad or empty when you are focused on gratitude! The quickest way to feel God's presence, is to fill your heart with gratitude.

. What are you thankful for?
. What do you do to fill any feelings of emptiness?
. What represents beauty to you?
. What lifts your spirit?

Well, make it a grateful day!
Rev. Sylvia

Practice Gratitude

Greetings Beloved Ones,

An older woman came up to me in church and said she was visiting from another church. She told me of some health challenges she had and how she was feeling empty. She said she needed to feel God's presence in her life.

Have you ever felt empty or that you couldn't find the meaning of your life? Well, here is what I told the woman and what I would offer you. I told her to name at least three things she as grateful for

Friday, March 25, 2011

Focus on process not applause

Greetings Beloved Ones!

Our author states, "our culture is highly critical and competitive." How true! The media thrives on critiquing others and our young are encouraged to compete as a way of success. Both of these qualities has a lasting effect upon our developement.

Instead of striving to "be the best", why not simply strive to "do your best.". Doing your best without fear of judgement, criticism, or comparison will free you beyond measure. It will bring an inner sense of fulfillment that allows you to access even higher levels of creativity. It is the inner process that matters most.

. Is there something you are not particularly good at but you enjoy doing immensely?
. What brings you a sense of fulfillment ?
. Are you overcritical of yourself?
. How do you encourage yourself?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Saying No as well as Yes

Greetings Beloved Ones!

No is such a powerful word yet are you really comfortable saying it when you think you will hurt someone else or let someone down? There are so many situations were we are tempted to hold back our no in favor of offering something that will keep the peace or not cause others to think of you poorly.

When we are not honest with others about how we feel or what we truly want, it gives them the wrong picture of who we are and how they can and should respond to us.

. Can you and do you say no when there is a lot at stake that you might have to give up?
. How do you say "No to Power"?
. When was the last time you said yes when you wanted to say no? What prevented your no?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

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Friday, March 18, 2011

Live Encouragingly

Good Day Awakened Ones!

Sometimes I call you Beloved Ones, and that is because I want you to know you are loved. And sometimes I call you Awakened Ones because I want you to remember your true purpose.

If we are showered with positive encouraging words we usual want to live up to them. Everything in the universe responds to and loves praise. It expands our sense of self.

. What do you do well and how do you encourage yourself?
. Do you offer compliments easily?
. Do you receive compliments easily? If not, why not?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Other People, Your Guilt

Greetings Beloved Ones,

Guilty, guilty, guilty! if you are like most people you would hate to hear those words,especially from a judge. Yet how often have we acted like judge and jury and proclaimed others guilty! They may be guilty of hurting you, betraying you, or in some way offending you.

But what about when you are the guilty one? What about when you are the one doing the offending. Do you feel just as guilty or do you try and deflect that guilt? More than likely you project that guilt outward onto other people!

The task is how to handle and own our own sense of guilt. This would be a great sign of maturity and spiritual advancement!

. How do you handle guilt? Do you recognize when you are feeling guilty?
. Do you ever make people wrong or bad or gullty? Why?
. How comfortable are you with making mistakes or admitting you are wrong?

Well, you are precious even if fallable! Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

The invaluable moment of choice

Have you ever done something that you really didn't want to do or say something you really didn't want to say? We all have had those times when we have used poor judgement or made questionable choices.

Our author makes a statement that i believe would serve us all well. She states, "Awareness of consequences is key to conscious living". What if you could see the result of your actions and words before you made them? Would do or say something different?

It may be a good practice to pause before you act and ask yourself if this action, word or deed is in alighment with your stated values or the way you want to be.

. Without laping into regret, is there something that looking back you would do differently now that you know the outcome of your choice? How can this learning serve you in the future? What can you do to help you pause before acting?

Well, make it a valuable day,

Rev. Sylvia

Monday, March 14, 2011

Facts are not Fate

Greetings Beloved Ones!

Viktor Frankl, holocaust survivor who wrote the powerful book, "Man's Search for Meaning", said: Facts are not Fate! I love that thought because so often we think that whatever is before us is set in stone, or that it is not changeable. All things change! That is part of life the question is how will we handle the change.

One way would be to keep in mind that the situation will change and that thought alone may
help you to begin to think of what you need to do differently or what your options may be.

. What are the facts that are presently facing you that you want to change?
. What is your plan of action?
. Do you believe in fate?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, March 11, 2011

Choose like an adult

Greetings Beloved Ones!

What are the things that drive you? What are your addictions? Not necessarily substances, but habits, feelings, compulsions or things you simply do unconsciously.

I love the author's definition of an addiction. She states: "an addiction reflects a fundament attitude that whatever you are addicted to is more powerful than you are, and that your fears, anxieties or limitations could not be eased or supported in any other way." Wow!

An addiction is basically giving away your power! Giving it to something or someone you believe is greater than, better than, stronger than, more worthy than yourself! But, that is not so.

Take back your power over your life and the decisions, choices, and actions you make. There is nothing outside of you that is greater than the spirit of God within you! That's all you need. You are supported by the universe! Go for it!

. To what or where have you given away your power?
. What are the things that drive you?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Drop those limiting perceptions

Good Day Awakened Ones!

Jonny Nash sang, "I can see clearly now the rain is gone, I can see all obstacles in my way, gone are the clouds that had me down, it's gonna be a bright bright sunshiny day!". But...can you see clearly?

So often we are clouded by our perceptions which we hold to be true. Or....we don't see how we are or what we are doing that affects our experiences. We think the way we see it is the way it is! Well, that ain't necessarily so!

If you find yourself experiencing some negative or limiting feeling and thoughts, practice asking yourself "how else can I see this situation?" "what else may be going on here?"; "how can I show up differently?"

Be careful, you just might get a new perspective!

. What needs to be changed in you?
. What perspective or perceptions are challenging you right now?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Positive thoughts are not enough

Good Day Beloved Ones!

If you put ice cream on top of dirt to clean it up, and make it look pretty or taste better, guess what, when the ice cream melts, the dirt is still there! Tha is what happens when people just keep putting positive thoughts on top of their negative feelings!

Saying positive things can help but it is not enough if your underlying attitudes and feelings are not addressed. You have to ask yourself truthful questions about why you feel the way you and if that is the ultimate Truth about you. Once you can identify the root cause of your feelings and thoughts then you can sweeten them with more loving, positive, and supporting thoughts. You can then affirm the goodness and value of your being!

. Where are you using artificial sweetener to cover up your true feelings?
. Have you examined your negative feelings? What are they all about? What lies underneath them?
. Do you see the glass as being half empty or half full? And, shaft do you do with the other half?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, March 7, 2011

You are not at the mercy of your own thinking

Greetings Beloved Ones!

Help, these thoughts keeps running through my head! Oh, it's called thinking. However, when you keep repeating the same thought or senario over and over it's called being unconscious, or compulsive, or obsessive, or guilty.....you get the point.

You are the master of your mind and sometimes you just have to take charge and redirect the quality of your thoughts. When you notice you are caught up in a loop, do something to change directions; take a walk, ask questions about an entirely different topic, do something with your body, anything to shift you energy.

. How do you handle repetitive thoughts?
. Why do you think we have repetitive thoughts?
. What is the quality of your repetitive thoughts?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, March 4, 2011

How thoughts work

Greetings Awakened Ones!

If you have been on the spiritual path for a while, you probably have heard that your thoughts are not your thoughts. Well, whose are they, because they sure are running around in my head!

The key to know is just because thoughts appear or pass through your mind doesn't mean you have to buy into them or identify with them or act upon them! You can actually simply let them pass though.

The challenge may be when those thoughts keep passing through and they are affecting you negatively. The first thing is to remember that they are just thoughts! You do not have to react to them. You can simply observe them. This may take practice but it is so worth the effort. Because, once you begin to watch them you then have the presence of mind to be more conscious in choosing whether to engage them or change them!

. What do you do with your repetitive thoughts? How do you change them or do you just let them run rampant?
. What is the quality of your repetitive thoughts? Are they positive or emotional, or negative?

"Watching in" instead of "watching out", will have a powerful effect on your life!

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Thoughts can be changed

Good Day Awakened Ones!

Someone said, "no one is born with a bad attitude, but many people die with one"! Help!, my attitude is killing me! If you truly look at your life, the experiences you have, your actions and reactions are offen a reflection of the thoughts you are holding in your mind. They create your basic attitude towards life and people.

Thoughts can be changed! It may not be easy but it is possible. See if you can develope the practice of observing your thoughts. Try to notice the quality of your thoughts and the energy behind them. Ask yourself where is that thought coming from? What is driving that opinion, or belief? What is the emotional charge behind the thought? Is it fear based, or ego driven, or coming from a place of love and deep awareness of good and truth?

This is a great way to change your thoughts and attitudes. When I woke upnthis morning I was feeling a bit discouraged, then as I observed those feelings, I heard a higher thought that said, "being or getting discouraged is just the ego's way of keeping you entangled in negativity, just keep going and moving forward". That newe thought immediately changed my attitude and feelings of discouragement. So....stop, look and listen to your thoughts....you just might want to change them.,

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Think of life as a series of imperfect facts

Good Day Awakened Ones!

You may not know it but I am a recovering perfectionist. OK, if the truth be told, I have fallen off the wagon a few times....ok, several times!

Oh how I think things should be perfect! I am not conscious of that but the fact that I get upset when they aren't is a tell tale sign of a perfectionist.

The popular phrase of "Go with the Flow", has some value when applied appropriately. If we understand that life is a series of imperfect experiences then we are better able to handle whatever is before us.

People are also imperfect and if we can hold them in that light when something doesn't go quite right, forgiveness and understanding are easier to come into play.

. What are some of your imperfections?
. When was the last time you made a mistake? How did you react? How did others around you react?
. If your life were perfect what would it look like?

Well, that ought to keep you for a while! Make it a valuable day!

Rev. Sylvia

Monday, February 28, 2011

Follow the clues to find your attitudes

Good Day Awakened Ones!

Often times we think we know ourselves so well yet it is those unconscious behaviors that trip us up. How can you choose if you are unaware of your unconscious drivers and triggers? How can you transform what you are unaware of?

Well we give ourselves clues all the time. Our author suggests that we follow the clues to find our attitudes. So, "Watch your behavior, especially how you routinely respond to situations"; "Listen in on your self-talk... Discover what you routinely tell yourself"; "Monitor your body...our bodies speak to us constantly"; "Monitor you emotions....know what jump starts your emotions"; "Observe what gets your time and attention".

Just checking out what is taking place within you unconsciously or automatically will reveal a great deal. Try to do so without judgement or criticism or negative self-talk....oh and leave out the guilt also. You want to be able to see what you normally don't see in yourself.

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, February 25, 2011

Too Fat? Too Thin? Not Enough?

Good Day Awakened Ones!

Someone once said, "what you think of me is none of my business!". That's a great statement if you really believe it! Most of the time we do believe what others say about us and, what is worse is that we say some pretty awful things about ourselves!

We spend way too much time making assumptions, telling ourselves stories about what we think people are thinking about us. Or, we make choices or take actions based on unsubstantiated info. All of this hurts our relationships and may cause us to present with faulty attitudes!

Stop judging yourself and others! Do a Reality Check within to honestly see what may or may not be true about you or the Truth of you!

So, ask yourself these things:
. Is there any truth in the judgements about me?
. Is there any truth in the judgements I am making about others or....are they just my opinions?
. What does my negative self talk say about me?
To whom or what do I give my power away?

Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Striving and Straining

Good Day Awakened Ones!

I said awakened ones not anxious ones! Some days I awaken with a general sense of anxiety. I have so much on my plate that the energy just hangs over my being.

We all may be guilty of straining and striving to do all that is ours to do, all that we desire to do that we forget how to simply enjoy life. Sometimes it is more refreshing to simply be in the flow; to let life happen without all of our goals and plans. The key is knowing when to let go and when to for he ahead.

Use your inner feelings as a signal. If you are overly anxious, relax some, if you are stuck in a jolting pattern, try and jump start some action. Just listen within to know when to go or when to slow!

The questions for today are:
. What is your life telling you? Is it time to go or to slow down?
. Do you feel comfortable taking a time out in the middle of a pressing project or task or workload?
. Are you good at prioritizing your time and energy?
. Do you know when you are maxed out? What are the signals that you may need a breather?

Well, be aware and make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Peace on Earth

Greetings Beloved Ones!

We sing a song that says, let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me. Yes you are the author and creator of peace in your world, your inner world. But, how often are you rude, critical and violent towards your own self?

We speak negatively to and about ourselves; putting ourselves down, criticizing our every fault and flaw. How can peace begin with us when we are so harsh with ourselves? Yes peace must begin with us! It starts by loving one's self!

So the questions for today are:
. How do you make peace with yourself?
. How do you make peace with others?
. What is disturbing you right now? What's you plan of action?

Well, make it a peaceful day!
Blessings, Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Your attitudes are contagious

Greetings Beloved Ones!

Listen to this, "Attitude is expressed through presence - before a single word is spoken"! Oh how true. I know that whenever I am at odds or feeling out of sorts, it just oozes out of my being. I find it hard to put on a smiley face when I am processing my feelings inwardly.

Yet, our attitudes affect the people around us constantly. While we don't want to be a sour puss, for some, the challenge is how to be true to yourself and honor what is taking place within you while interacting with others. Well, we can start by acknowledging others and also acknowledging or sharing our need to process some things. This may help to alleviate any unacknowledged tension.

In the meantime, our author suggests we cultivate attitudes that support your finest vision of living, then let yourself live them out.

So, the questions for the day are:
. What attitudes do you want to cultivate ?
. What do you do when you are not in the best of moods and you must be around or interact with other people?
. Have you ever "caught" an attitude? Do share :)

Well, make it a valuable day,
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, February 21, 2011

The Greatest Attitude of all is Love

Good Day Beloveds,

Love, love, love, the gospel in one word is love! While that is a children's Sunday school song, it has real meaning. Love is the most powerful force in the world! It can transform cold hearts, soothe angry souls and heal physical bodies.

Yet, it is seldom use outside of the traditional venue of romantic love, or an expression for how one feels about another person. Love is for life! It is for the appreciation, value, and reveling in all things good and beautiful.

The questions for the day are:
. What not whom do you love? Can you name ten things that you love?
. Do you take time to delight in things?
. How do you Define love?

Friday, February 18, 2011

Basic Attitudes, Profound Effects

Greetings Awakened Ones!

Our author states, "conscious of it or not, you have a basic attitude towards life and living. This gets expressed and lived out through countless thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions that profoundly affect not only the way you see things, but also how you un consciously invite other people to "see" and respond to you! ...Your attitudes drive all kinds of unconscious choices as well as conscious ones....Know What They Are!"

Wow! The questions food the day are:
. What is your basic attitude toward life? Can you tell by how your life is showing up?
. When things "happen to you", that might be considered negative or challenging, what is your
general response?
. Now can you tell when you need a new attitude?
. How do you see the world?
. Can you identify any unconscious attitudes based on what keeps showing up in your life?

On go deep my friends! Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Thursday, February 17, 2011

It's not your money that counts

God's Day to you !
I love that statement by Anais Nin, "We don't see things as they are, we see things as we are"! How true. We are always looking out into the world not realizing that what we are seeing is a result of our perception. It is more of a statement about us than it is about what is going on!

Check out how you "see" the world!

Questions for today are:
. How do you see the world? Is it a hard place or a friendly place ?
. How would you describe your general attitude about life?
. How do you go about changing your attitude?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Value Other's Gifts

Greetings Beloved Ones!

Have I told you Lately that I love you? And not only that, but I appreciate you, and value all of your gifts, talents and abilities.

This lesson today is so right on time for me because it has come to my attention that I don't always let people know how much I value them or see their talents. In fact, they may feel disempowered or devalued by my strong personality or presence.

We all may need to be more aware of our impact upon others, even though everyone is responsible for their own inner feelings and sense of self. The truth of the matter is we can only feel devalued if we accept what others say or don't value our own self-worth.

However, we must still be aware of how we express our selves to others. We must still offer love and concern, appreciation, and kindness.

So the questions are:
. Whose talents and abilities do you admire?
. How do you demonstrate your appreciation of others?
. When was the last time you connected with someone society may have deemed to be a "marginal" person? What beauty or worth did you
find there?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

You don't have to be a star!

Greetings Awakened Ones!

Do you remember the song, "Everybody is a star", by Sly and the Family Stone? It was a song reminding everyone of their significance, their importance in the overall scheme of things.

Everyone wants to feel important, that they matter, that they are significant to others. But what if I were to tell you that that really didn't matter. What matters most is that you feel good within yourself! We place so much emphasis on how we are showing up for others; how we look in their eyes but what matters most is how you see yourself!

You don't have to be a star, you just have to be yourself! That is enough to shine brightly in the galaxy of stars!

Ask yourself:
. Who am I ? What do I love about myself?
. What are my greatest assets and gifts?
. Does my being bless anyone?
. Who have I served lately?
. Have I ever expressed love and kindness?
. Do I matter to myself?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Monday, February 14, 2011

The Power of Purpose

Greetings Beloved Ones!

Have you ever asked yourself why am I here? What is my purpose for being? What am I "supposed" to be doing in life? All of these are powerful questions and we can make them some the of existential experience or we can simply try to get in touch with our heart's desires and what makes us feel alive.

Finding your purpose is a personal journey into the discovery of who you are or more aptly who you desire to be. It is knowing your wants and needs, what excites you and pulls you towards greater growth, and what brings you happiness and joy.

So, I ask you:
. What brings you happiness and joy? And, are you able to do it enough so that it fulfills a purpose in you?
. Do you know what your purpose is?

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia

Friday, February 11, 2011

Unwrap your motives

Greetings Beloved Ones!

We all have reasons for doing the things we do, even if they are unconsious. However, it may feel like we just do something without any motive or reason. We would probably be surprised if we looked behind our actions to see our motives!

Motives call for honesty and authenticity and that perhaps scares us. We might not like our motives because they may appear to be selfish or self-centered, yet we have them.

Think about this, knowing your underlying motives can actually help you to make clearer choices with more impact for your life. There may be positive and negative motives but we gain power when we can acknowledge them all. Who knows, when seeing them, we might be moved to make another choice!

The question for today is actually an action step:
. Pick a situation that you are currently in, or a relationship and ask yourself -"what are my motivations here?"

Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia