Greetings Beloved Ones,
We all know the secret to relationships is mastering the art of "compromise". And, the way to refine your ability to compromise is to keep your ego in check! It is the ego that tells you you must have your way, or that you are always right, or that you must win at any cost, or to compromise is to somehow lose.
As you grow and mature emotionally and spiritually you will value the ability to let go, to compromise, to honor the other in the relationship and still feel good!
. What was your last compromise?
. Do you need to win all the time?
. Can you let others be right even when you know that you are right?
Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Monitor your inner state
Greetings Beloved One,
"When you feel bad about yourself, you will be far more inclined to interpret other people's responses negatively. You can get a read on your inner state of mind by how you relate to others.
It is good to take your emotional temperature once in a while. Sometimes we react to others without conscious forethought. We can benefit by tuning into how others are responding to us. Then we can check whether it is us or them. Either way, we can use the opportunity to choose consciously.
. Do you react quickly to other people?
. How do monitor your inner state?
Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia
"When you feel bad about yourself, you will be far more inclined to interpret other people's responses negatively. You can get a read on your inner state of mind by how you relate to others.
It is good to take your emotional temperature once in a while. Sometimes we react to others without conscious forethought. We can benefit by tuning into how others are responding to us. Then we can check whether it is us or them. Either way, we can use the opportunity to choose consciously.
. Do you react quickly to other people?
. How do monitor your inner state?
Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia
Monday, August 8, 2011
No Dumping!
Greetings Beloved One,
Do you ever feel entitled to criticize, yell, or, act out simply because you are feeling bad? Often times because our friends and loved ones are near and because we know they love us, we feel free to express all of our emotions or rather "dump" all of our emotions on them!
What we really want and need is empathy! Not just a place to unleash all of our stuff!!! The key is for us to learn how to share our negative feelings and emotions with those who care about us, in a healthy way for them and us.
Instead of going off, try simply owning our state of being out right. This will allow the other person to know what is going on with us and it will diffuse our inner feelings.
. What do you do with your pent up emotions and feelings?
. How do you express your frustrations?
Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia
Do you ever feel entitled to criticize, yell, or, act out simply because you are feeling bad? Often times because our friends and loved ones are near and because we know they love us, we feel free to express all of our emotions or rather "dump" all of our emotions on them!
What we really want and need is empathy! Not just a place to unleash all of our stuff!!! The key is for us to learn how to share our negative feelings and emotions with those who care about us, in a healthy way for them and us.
Instead of going off, try simply owning our state of being out right. This will allow the other person to know what is going on with us and it will diffuse our inner feelings.
. What do you do with your pent up emotions and feelings?
. How do you express your frustrations?
Well, make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Fortify The Castle
Greetings Beloved One,
We have been taught to consider others and this is good; however it is also good to be clear of when to focus on your own needs. Sometimes it is necessary to say no when considering others.
Our author says, "tolerance or even kindness should never take you to a place where your own integrity comes under threat"....considering others ceases to be psychologically helpful when you lose sight of your own needs, integrity and self."
. When was the last time you had to say no to someone? How did you feel?
. How do you choose between your needs and your obligations?
. How do you fortify your "castle"?
Make it a great day!
Rev. Sylvia
We have been taught to consider others and this is good; however it is also good to be clear of when to focus on your own needs. Sometimes it is necessary to say no when considering others.
Our author says, "tolerance or even kindness should never take you to a place where your own integrity comes under threat"....considering others ceases to be psychologically helpful when you lose sight of your own needs, integrity and self."
. When was the last time you had to say no to someone? How did you feel?
. How do you choose between your needs and your obligations?
. How do you fortify your "castle"?
Make it a great day!
Rev. Sylvia
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
What Boundaries Allow
Greetings Beloved One,
Everyone has their own personal space. We have our likes and our dislikes, our own sense of what is acceptable to us and what is not. Because everyone is different and has different boundaries of comfort it would seem to make things challenging for us in relating to one another. However, the opposite can be true. Having clearly identified and expressed boundaries can actually help the relationship if they are known, honored, and valued by each party.
When boundaries are in place, you can feel empathy, interest, love, and peace. Just remember, you are not the center of other people's world, just your own. Respect their boundaries and set yours!
. How are you affecting other people?
. Are you aware of other's boundaries?
Make it a valuable day?
Rev. Sylvia
Everyone has their own personal space. We have our likes and our dislikes, our own sense of what is acceptable to us and what is not. Because everyone is different and has different boundaries of comfort it would seem to make things challenging for us in relating to one another. However, the opposite can be true. Having clearly identified and expressed boundaries can actually help the relationship if they are known, honored, and valued by each party.
When boundaries are in place, you can feel empathy, interest, love, and peace. Just remember, you are not the center of other people's world, just your own. Respect their boundaries and set yours!
. How are you affecting other people?
. Are you aware of other's boundaries?
Make it a valuable day?
Rev. Sylvia
Monday, August 1, 2011
What Boundaries Are
Greetings Beloved Ones!
Do you have boundaries? Are you able to say what you need from others? Are you able to tell others what is not acceptable to you? Do you allow other people to walk over you? All of these questions have to do with boundaries and whether you have them or set them in your relationships.
Taking the time to get clear on what your boundaries are will inevitably help you and those you interact with. It takes self-respect, self-confidence, and self-awareness. And, it provide a freedom that encourages honesty and understanding if done in love.
. Where do you need to set boundaries in your life?
Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia
Do you have boundaries? Are you able to say what you need from others? Are you able to tell others what is not acceptable to you? Do you allow other people to walk over you? All of these questions have to do with boundaries and whether you have them or set them in your relationships.
Taking the time to get clear on what your boundaries are will inevitably help you and those you interact with. It takes self-respect, self-confidence, and self-awareness. And, it provide a freedom that encourages honesty and understanding if done in love.
. Where do you need to set boundaries in your life?
Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia
Friday, July 29, 2011
There's nothing private about your moods.
Greetings Beloved One,
I ,issued yesterdays message but it is a powerful one and I believe it also ties into today's message. Yesterday was about growing beyond abuse. Many people suffer not just from physical abuse, but emotional and psychological abuse as well. Truth be told emotional and psychological carry just as heavy a burden as psychological abuse although it may on the surface seem less harmful.
Consider the effects of abuse leading to your being either a people pleaser or having ranting expressions yourself. Both are harmful to you and the people around you. You may either hold all your feelings in or force them out and onto others. Finding a healthy form of expression is a must for you. Building Self-Love and Self-Respect is a start!
When you can love and forgive yourself, it will lead to loving and considering others more easily. Your moods and outlook will change for the better and everyone around you will benefit.
Find something to love and forgive about yourself today!
Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia
I ,issued yesterdays message but it is a powerful one and I believe it also ties into today's message. Yesterday was about growing beyond abuse. Many people suffer not just from physical abuse, but emotional and psychological abuse as well. Truth be told emotional and psychological carry just as heavy a burden as psychological abuse although it may on the surface seem less harmful.
Consider the effects of abuse leading to your being either a people pleaser or having ranting expressions yourself. Both are harmful to you and the people around you. You may either hold all your feelings in or force them out and onto others. Finding a healthy form of expression is a must for you. Building Self-Love and Self-Respect is a start!
When you can love and forgive yourself, it will lead to loving and considering others more easily. Your moods and outlook will change for the better and everyone around you will benefit.
Find something to love and forgive about yourself today!
Make it a valuable day!
Rev. Sylvia
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